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Battle Lines Are Drawn

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When you announce or actually file for divorce, battle lines will be drawn.  That means that most people are going to take sides–or otherwise make their feelings known.  For example, you may have a mass exodus of “friends” on Facebook, even of those you never expected.

If nothing else, people sometimes seem to be fickle.  They can claim to be your friend, but divorce, like war, requires those involved to take a side.  The battle lines are drawn and they definitely do not want to be caught in the middle.

Although I didn’t experience it, some members of your spouse’s family may actually decide to stand with you.  Of course, that also would presume that they know why the divorce is coming about.  If your spouse has been telling people “I don’t know why he is divorcing me”, they are probably only angry with you (at least until the truth starts coming out).

Why the title: When “I Do” Does Not?

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Unless you had a “shotgun” wedding, your marriage was voluntary.  You made a covenant with your spouse (and, frankly, with God) to be married to them—agreeing to put aside everything and everyone else and put them first.  For Christian believers, that covenant is to remain as long as the husband and wife are both alive.  It dissolves only upon the death of one of the spouses.  Some fail to see that covenant through.  For one reason or another, one or both abandon the covenant and the marriage effectively dies…

So then, when do your “I do’s” not?  Or, put another way, when does your covenant no longer have any force and effect?  That, simply put, is what we will discuss.  We’ll also look into what to expect as you go through divorce and things that might help.